Roommate’s relentless food theft brings her housemates to a boil, prompting new fridge ban policy, she reacts with “vibes ruined” accusations

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Etai Eshet • Editor
Dec 23, 2024 10:00 AM EST

Living with roommates can pose quite a challenge when not everyone is on the same page regarding personal space, belongings, and overall respect for other people's boundaries within the already-shared living space. It's like navigating a minefield of potential conflicts and misunderstandings.

Sharing a place with roommates can teach you a lot about people, sometimes more than you ever wanted to know. It's a boot camp for patience, restraint, and figuring out creative ways to protect your last slice of pizza.

They can become a delicate ecosystem, where one person's actions can throw everything off balance. It's not just about the physical items either. It's about feeling comfortable and at ease in your own home. When you start hiding snacks you know things have gone off the rails.

living with roommates crash course in diplomacy, anger management, and peaceful problem-solving. Communication is key, they say. But sometimes, no matter how many roommate meetings you have or passive-aggressive sticky notes you leave, those who skipped "Roommate Etiquette 101" just don't get it. 

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    "The last straw was when she ate my emotional support tiramisu❞
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  • The original poster (OP) of this story is dealing with a nightmarish roommatel. This girl treats their shared fridge like it's a free-for-all, all-you-can-eat buffet, constantly helping herself to everyone's food without asking. And every time she's caught, she gives the same excuse about being stressed and promises to replace the food, but, prepare to have your mind blown - never does

    The last straw that made OP head to Reddit for advice was when the roommate gobbled up OP's special homemade tiramisu - a dessert that wasn’t just a sugar and caffeine hit but more of a comfort food after a tough week. And so, fed up with the roommate’s food-snatching ways, OP decided she had to put her foot down and took a bold step. She bought a lock for the fridge and moved all her food into this new food fortress.

    Of course, the roommate wasn't happy about this. She complained that OP was ruining the apartment's “good vibes” and even tried to get the other roommates, who turned out to also be finding imaginative to hide their snacks from her, on her side.

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    AITAH for installing a lock on my fridge to stop my roommate from 'stress-eating' my food?
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    So, I (30F) live with my roommate, Sarah (29F), who has this habit of eating everything in the fridge, whether it's hers or not. She always says it's because she's "stressed" and swears
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    she'll replace it, but my groceries vanish faster than a dating app match after mentioning kids. The last straw was when she ate my emotional support tiramisu.
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    For context, I'd spent hours making this tiramisu after a rough week at work—it was my therapy in a dessert. Sarah ate the whole thing
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    without asking and left a note on the empty dish that said, "Sorry! PMS s ks. I owe you." That was it. I lost it. I ordered a lock for the fridge for my food and
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    moved everything into it. Now Sarah's furious, saying I've "ruined the vibe of the apartment" and that I'm "passive-aggressive" for
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    locking her out of the shared fridge. She even tried to rally our other roommates against me (spoiler: they also hide their snacks from her).
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    AITAH for locking up my food, or is Sarah just mad she can't steal my serotonin anymore?
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    Tomorrow Bunny222 • 3h ago ΝΤΑ If I made tiramisu from scratch after a hard week and someone ate ALL of it without asking and then left a note on the empty dish blaming PMS, their life would be in danger lol
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    Front_Rip4064 • 4h ago NTA. If Sarah is stealing everyone's food, you need to have a house meeting and everyone bar Sarah decides on a solution.
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    Also, she's going into your rooms to steal food? That should be an immediate eviction as far as I'm concerned, because your rooms are not common property.
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    You didn't ruin the vibe. She did. And now she's ped because she knows the reckoning is coming.
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    Perimentalpause • 4h ago NTA. "I'm not passive aggressive. I'm assertively sticking to my boundaries. Just because you say 'oops sorry' doesn't mean I've given you permission to keep stealing my food. I
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    don't want you to 'get me back'. I want the sh bought or made to be there when I want it, when I'm expecting it, and not to have been consumed by you. I do not accept your 'sorry'. I do
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    not condone your behavior. So since you can't seem to stop yourself, I'm protecting my assets. If this is the only way to be sure that I have what I bought/made, then
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    so be it. You're mad that I'm solving the problem you're presenting. Too bad, so sad. Be a better roommate and this wouldn't happen."
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  • The Tribe Have Spoken.

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    Dachshundmom5 3h ago • Top 1% Commenter She's breaking locks and stealing from you. This is time to vote her off the island behavior.
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    If she was breaking locks and stealing money from your wallets, would you think you were an AH? Food costs money. She's stealing from all of you.
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    • BlyteBewitch 3h ago NTA. Installing a lock to protect the sacred realm of homemade tiramisu? Completely justified. It's not passive-aggressive; it's dessert-defensive. Sarah
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    might need to find her stress relief elsewhere because the fridge is no longer an all-you-can-eat buffet. And hey, it sounds
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    like the vibe was already on thin ice with the secret snack stashes around the apartment. Keep your sweets safe and your tiramisu closer!
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  • In THIS economy?!?!

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    ZSforPrez ⚫4h ago Jesus. An apology would have been appropriate. She literally just wanted to keep stealing and eating your food, what a b for blaming anything on you.
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    1PartSalty 1 PartSpicy • 3h ago • 3-4 times a month she is eating nearly all of the food in the fridge in the middle of the night? That means, every week she is eating all of the food out
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    of the fridge? For me, that would be nearly a week's worth of food. So...in short, she's eating all of your food all of the time? In this economy?!
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    Frozefoots 3h ago • ΝΤΑ. PMS doesn't give you an out for being a selfish pig. I'd be demanding the payment for the ingredients used/food you purchased but didn't get to eat because she has the self control of a Labrador puppy.
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    Jenny Anonymous OP • 5h ago The 3 other girls in the house have sent her numerous Venmo requests for 200+ dollars and text her our grocery receipts and she's said "well I went with you
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    shopping that day so I don't know what is actually yours" or "why can't we just share everything" We would all be okay with sharing everything if she didn't sneak eat everything in the middle of the night.
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